In the initial #FIRST episode I do not shy away from the touchy subject of my best friend’s relationship with her parents. She describes the events of her #FIRST memory as a child loosing her parents in the petting zoo because she got distracted by a deer. After trailing away from her family and not being able to find them for a few hours, Kathy came to the conclusion they were just not looking, or even (assumed) to care. This idea has now become her reality; this dated presupposed notion has affected her in ways that Kathy herself doesn’t even realize. Perpetuating this 'false' memory, Kathy sees herself as the victim or "forgotten daughter" in the family unit, a role that spills over into other areas of her life. It’s unfortunate this theme has been replaying in her mind out of familiarity as a kind of comfort in understanding her relationship with her family. Kathy’s sister (according to Kathy) has done “everything the right way”. She compares herself to her sister because she has a perceived sense of security. There is constant pressure from society to have the house, the job, the partner, the car, and the pension in order to feel fulfilled and protected. If we are off “chasing the deer” we are seen as irresponsible, lacking in knowledge or even an outcast from our family. I can relate! So I interrupt her cycle of negative self-worth and challenge her with a question, “Why are we living for society and not for ourselves?” This expectation from decades of practice has crippled us in many ways. Doubt and fear have taken over our independent thought. And according to my mom, to be authentic we need to combat these defeatist ideals that are ingrained in our psyche. Because only then will we be truly authentic to our being. Thinking and feeling and loving who or how we want are the fundamental lessons here! I say, go… chase that deer and try (try?) to be free – your authentic self is waiting.